Dan Stokman, MA, LPCC, CLC

St Paul Minnesota 55102


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  • Office Visit, adults, adolescents, couples, families, Coaching
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  • Choosing a therapist can be a time-consuming, anxiety-provoking, and confusing process.  Hopefully, the information provided on this website will be of some help in deciding whether my services will be a good fit for you and your counseling goals.  Feel free to call or email me with any questions you might have about my training and approach.

    Please note that I offer a free 20 minute consultation if requested.  Some find this helpful in their selection of a Catholic therapist. I want to provide you some background information of my training, experience, and approach to better assist you in your choice.

    I have received extensive training in marriage counseling and consider this my primary specialty. I have received advanced training in the Gottman Method and in Emotionally Focused Therapy. EFT currently has the highest success rate of research tested methods in couples therapy.

    In addition to marriage counseling, I also work with individuals suffering from depression, anxiety, stress related problems, shame, spiritual, and anger issues.

    I am also a Certified Life Coach through the Adler Institute and find ways to integrate this into my clinical work. I find this compliments therapy nicely and brings to the work an emphasis on helping clients move toward what they want and the best that God has for them.

    My approach is to work with the whole person, which recognizes Christian spirituality as an essential element of what it means to be truly human.  Understanding our need for grace, along with utilizing sound and effective psychological methods, is a powerful means to healing.

    I am located in Saint Paul, MN. Conveniently accessed from I-94 and I-35 in the Twin Cities area and offer evening appointments.

    Grace and Peace, Dan Stokman

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  • Bio:
  • As a Catholic therapist, I provide services to the greater Minneapolis and St Paul area (Twin Cities). For clients traveling a greater distance, I have flexibility to schedule longer sessions, which has proven effective for couples seeking healing to their relationship hurt. Marriage counseling is my primary specialty, but I work with clients struggling with a number of other issues, including depression, anxiety, trauma, stress, grief, and shame.

    I am a Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor (LPCC) through the state of Minnesota and a Certified Life Coach through the Adler Institute.

    My passion is to see transformation take place in the lives of individuals and couples as they experience greater fulfillment and purpose in their lives. In my own life, with its own struggles, I am very aware of my need for Gods grace. Without the One who knows me and loves me, my life lacks vitality, clarity, hope, and direction. We all stand in need of Christ and counseling is no substitute for this. That being said, we need a complete understanding and approach to the human person when we find ourselves facing emotional pain. My profession, which is very much a sense of a calling, focuses primarily on the psychological/emotional aspect of the human person, but framed within the context of knowing the whole of man is so much more.

    My graduate studies at Franciscan University of Steubenville provided a great understanding of how to integrate the Catholic faith with the psychological sciences. I graduated in 1995 with a Masters degree in Counseling.

  • Credentials, Training, Qualifications:
    Certified Life Coach
    Certified Employee Asst Professional
    Marriage Counseling Training:
    - Adv. Level Training Gottman Method
    - Adv. Level Training in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy

  • What licenses do you currently hold?:
  • Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor (LPCC)
  • Are you in private practice?:
  • Yes
  • Are you available to provide supervision services?:
  • No
  • Do you participate in any insurance plans?:
  • Yes
  • If yes, please list:
  • I am contracted with some, not all insurance plans. I do offer a lower rate if insurance is not involved.
  • Telephone/Video counseling:
  • No
  • Please list all languages that you speak:
  • English
  • I treat the following:
  • Individuals, Married Couples, Adolescents, Families, Adult Children of Alcoholics, Sexual Abuse Victims, Depressive Disorders, Anxiety Disorders, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, Child Bearing Loss
  • I use the following methods:
  • Prayer, Behavior Techniques, Cognitive Techniques, Brief Solution Focused Therapy, Other
  • Please describe other treatment methods
  • Professional Life Coaching, Motivational Enhancement Therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy (marriage counseling), Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Behavioral Activation, Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT)
  • Catholic Commitment Of Therapist


    Artificial Contraception:

    "For just reasons spouses may wish to space the birth of their children."… "Periodic continence that is the methods of birth regulation based on self-observation and the use of infertile periods is in conformity with the objective criteria of morality."… " 'every action which whether in anticipation of the conjugal act or in its accomplishment or in the development of its natural consequences proposes whether as an end or as a means to render procreation impossible is intrinsically evil'." (Catechism 2368 2370) Please indicate if you agree or disagree.

  • Do you agree or disagree?
  • Agree
  • Living Together/Cohabitation:

    In a so-called free union a man and a woman refuse to give juridical and public form to a liaison involving sexual intimacy. The expression "free union" is fallacious: what can "union" mean when the partners make no commitment to one another each exhibiting a lack of trust in the other in himself or in the future? The expression covers a number of different situations: concubinage rejection of marriage as such or inability to make long-term commitments. All these situations offend against the dignity of marriage; they destroy the very idea of the family; they weaken the sense of fidelity. They are contrary to the moral law. The sexual act must take place exclusively within marriage. Outside of marriage it always constitutes a grave sin and excludes one from sacramental communion. Some today claim a "right to trial marriage" where there is an intention of getting married later. However firm the purpose of those who engage in premature sexual relations may be "the fact is that such liaisons can scarcely ensure mutual sincerity and fidelity in a relationship between a man and a woman nor especially can they protect it from inconstancy of desires or whim." Carnal union is morally legitimate only when a definitive community of life between a man and a woman has been established. Human love does not tolerate "trial marriages." It demands a total and definitive gift of persons to one another." (Catechism 2390 2391)

  • Do you agree or disagree?
  • Agree
  • Infertility:

    "Techniques that entail the dissociation of husband and wife by the intrusion of a person other than the couple (donation of sperm or ovum surrogate uterus) are gravely immoral. … Techniques involving only the married couple (homologous artificial insemination and fertilization) are perhaps less reprehensible yet remain morally unacceptable. They dissociate the sexual act from the procreative act. The act which brings the child into existence is no longer an act by which two persons give themselves to one another but one that 'entrust the life and identity of the embryo into the power of doctors and biologists and establishes the domination of technology over the origin and destiny of the human person. Such a relationship of domination is in itself contrary to the dignity and equality that must be common to parents and children'. … Only respect for the link between the meanings of the conjugal act and respect for the unity of the human being make possible procreation in conformity with the dignity of the person." (Catechism 2376 2377)

  • Do you agree or disagree?
  • Agree
  • Abortion:

    "From its conception the child has the right to life. Direct abortion that is abortion willed as an end or as a means is a "criminal" practice gravely contrary to the moral law. … Because it should be treated as a person from conception the embryo must be defended in its integrity cared for and healed like every other human being. (Catechism 2322 2324)

  • Do you agree or disagree?:
  • Agree
  • Divorce and Marriage:

    The church recognizes a validly contracted sacramental marriage as indissoluble. In therapeutic practice we are to presume the validity of a sacramental marriage "unless after examination of the situation by the competent ecclesiastical tribunal [the marriage is declared null i.e. that the marriage never existed in which case ] the contracting parties are free to [re]marry provided the natural obligations of a previous union are discharged." (Catechism 1629) "The separation of spouses while maintaining the marriage bond can be legitimate in certain cases provided for by canon law." (Catechism 1649) "The remarriage of persons divorced from a living lawful spouse contravenes the plan and law of God as taught by Christ. They are not separated from the Church but they cannot receive Eucharistic communion." (Catechism 1665)

  • Do you agree or disagree? :
  • Agree
  • Euthanasia:

    "Intentional euthanasia whatever its forms or motives is murder. It is gravely contrary to the dignity of the human person and to the respect due to the living God his Creator." (Catechism 2324)

  • Do you agree or disagree? :
  • Agree
  • Homosexuality:

    "Basing itself on Sacred Scripture which presents homosexual acts as acts of grave depravity tradition has always declared that 'homosexual acts are intrinsically disordered.' They are contrary to the natural law. They close the sexual act to the gift of life. They do not proceed from a genuine affective and sexual complementarily. Under no circumstances can they be approved. The number of men and women who have deep-seated homosexual tendencies is not negligible. They do not choose their homosexual condition; for most of them it is a trial. They must be accepted with respect compassion and sensitivity. Every sign of unjust discrimination in their regard should be avoided. Homosexual persons are called to chastity. By the virtues of self-mastery that teach them inner freedom at times by the support of disinterested friendship by prayer and sacramental grace they can and should gradually and resolutely approach Christian perfection." (Catechism 2357 2358 2359)

  • Do you agree or disagree?:
  • Agree
  • New Age Practice and Spirituality:

    New Age involves a fundamental belief in the perfectibility of the human person by means of a wide variety of techniques and therapies (as opposed to the Christian view of cooperation with divine grace). (

    It is difficult to separate the individual elements of New Age religiosity – innocent though they may appear – from the overarching framework which permeates the whole thought-world on the New Age movement. The gnostic nature of this movement calls us to judge it in its entirety. From the point of view of Christian faith it is not possible to isolate some elements of New Age religiosity as acceptable to Christians while rejecting others.

    The New Age concept of God is rather diffuse whereas the Christian concept is a very clear one. The New Age god is an impersonal energy really a particular extension or component of the cosmos; god in this sense is the life force or soul of the world. … Even when “God” is something outside myself it is there to be manipulated.

    This is very different from the Christian understanding of God as the maker of heaven and earth and the source of all personal life… God is not identified with the Life-principle understood as the “Spirit” or “basic energy” of the cosmos but is that love which is absolutely different from the world and yet creatively present in everything and leading human beings to salvation. (Excerpted from “Jesus Christ the Bearer of the Water of Life: A Christian reflection on the “New Age”. (Pontifical Council for Interreligious Dialogue)).

    Common New Age practices include the use of enneagrams labyrinths reiki healing yoga transcendental meditation healing by crystals psychic healing reflexolgoy tarot cards palm reading recourse to mediums and psychics fortune telling and contacting the dead. There are many other practices and techniques that go by various names that are variations of these basic practices and are similarly at odds with Christian faith and are therefore to be rejected.

  • Do you agree or disagree?:
  • Agree
  • How often do you attend Mass?
  • Every Sunday and Holy Days
  • Are You A Practicing Catholic?
  • Yes

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