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Theory and Reality
Written by Allison Ricciardi, L.M.H.C.   

 

allison nametitleOne of the courses that we take when studying psychology is psychological theory. Many psychologists have formed their own ideas about personality development and how the human psyche works. Some make sense and others are, quite frankly, pretty out there. I remember one theorist who believed that children are born evil, and hate, and want to kill their parents. As most students stroked their chins and nodded their heads, I raised my hand and asked the professor what had happened to her. It appeared obvious to me that her theory was fueled by some kind of unhappiness or trauma which, I thought, needed to be considered when evaluating it.

Former Mayor Rudy Giuliani made a brilliant observation a couple of weeks ago in a television interview. They were talking about the increasing problem of homeless people - many of whom are mentally ill - living on the streets in New York City. This is a problem Giuliani had nearly eradicated when he was mayor. He insisted that allowing people to live on the streets was inhumane. The problem, he explained was that those with liberal views (like current Mayor DiBlasio) don’t treat the homeless as people. They treat them as ideas. I was blown away. He really nailed it.

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Restoring the Dance When the Music Stops
Written by Barry A Levy, LCSW-C, CCDC, LMFT, BCN   

 

barry levy"Love and marriage go together like a horse and carriage..." This old time song is as true today as ever, and we now have a deeper understanding from both Scripture and science of how love and marriage "dance" together and how to restore the dance when the music stops. When God created Adam and Eve in His Divine Image, He inscribed into their very nature the image of the Trinity: a communion of persons, eternally "dancing" in a relationship of love. Perhaps that's why we love TV shows such as "So You Think You Can Dance?" and “Dancing With The Stars”. Here, week after week, we vote for the couples that connect, that make each other shine, that dimly image the glory of what God created man and woman for: a married, flowing embrace of love, modeling the dance of love in the Trinity.

God's loving plan is most revealed by Christ on the Cross, where for the love of us, and to reconcile us to the love of God, Jesus, the "Lord of the Dance," poured out his life in recklessly self-sacrificial love that was so fruitful it gave life to the world and formed the Church. This is the kind of love that God intends for marriage.

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Parenting 101: The Most Important Tenets
Written by Janice B Carbon, LCSW   

 

janice-carbonI want to share with you what I believe to be the three most important tenets of good parenting. Being a parent is by far the most important job any of us can have. We are not only responsible for the formation of another person, but in forming that person we have a share in shaping the larger world in which we live. This is not a responsibility to be taken lightly.

When I work with clients, I often explain the different views we have of our lives. In the same way that a good photographer will use different lenses to achieve different perspectives, we can do the same thing in our lives. Sometimes we get a better picture using the wide-angle or big picture lens. At other times we want the close-up view.

When parents come into counseling for parenting advice, they have specific complaints or problems in dealing with their children. It is often the case that they are feeling so overwhelmed in the moment that they have lost sight of the big picture.

I usually spend some time in session reminding parents of their purpose and goals. That is, I bring them back to the big picture. Once parents are back on track with the big picture, I can help them connect it with what is going on in the moment, the little picture. Parenting works best when parents are able to stay connected to the big picture, keeping the little picture in context. Keeping things in context gives parents the knowledge to stay consistent and strong when they need to be, and avoid being manipulated by the child.

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"Her Fireman Died" - A Story of Beauty in the Midst of Life's Deepest Pain
Written by Christopher Stravitsch, LPC   

 

funeral-wreath kranz an einem wikimedia-commons“Her fireman died.” These were the poignant words of my toddler son, as he pointed to a woman in the grocery store. Of course, he was not aware of the weight of his statement.

The woman was his teacher at a church school the year before.  She was his favorite teacher, which was evidenced by the smile he tried to hide upon entering the classroom and the warm hug he welcomed when saying “bye bye.” She made sure he and all the children had fun and felt safe—-no doubt a demanding task for that age group. I am impressed by anyone who can keep eight toddlers seated around a table long enough to eat a snack and sing a song. I could barely make that happen with my son alone!

My son’s favorite day at school, which he still remembers even though he was only a toddler at the time, was when firemen from the local station came for a visit. The children, who naturally think all fire-fighters are superheroes, were ebullient as they watched the fire truck’s ladder go “up, up, up, way high” and then lean against the building. “Like this” he would say, while showing us with his own fire truck at home. Firemen in full gear climbed the ladder and waved to the children, seemingly “as high as the clouds,” the children were sure. Fire hats, fire hoses, fire truck gadgets, and real live firemen made this a school day to remember.

Halfway through the year my son’s teacher informed us that she was retiring from the school. Her husband was diagnosed with cancer and they needed to spend more time together as a family. My son was sad to see her go and it took him a while to adjust to a new teacher.

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ct angel "Trust in the Lord with all your heart. In all your ways acknowledge Him and He will make straight your paths."  Proverbs 3: 5-6