Patrick Cayouette, LMSW, CSAT Candidate

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Penfield New York 14526


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  • Practice
  • Please specify in your email or phone contact, if you are seeking Online Sessions ( or office sessions (Agape Counseling, Rochester, NY)
  • Phone Number
  • 585-750-7605
  • Location
  • 21 Willow Pond Way
    Suite 3
    Penfield, NY 14526
    United States

Practice Details

  • Work With

  • adults, adults, Coaching, couples, couples, Office Visit, Telephone/Online Video Counseling
  • Message from Therapist

  • I have extensive experience working with clients of different denominations and faiths. My job is not to preach or convert, but to offer the Catholic Christian foundation to those who are desiring to include their faith in their therapeutic process.

    My main focus is on marital challenges through a Skype practice at  Plus, I also specialize working with men at a Christian counseling agency, Agape Counseling, in the Rochester, NY area. (Please specify which service you are interested in upon original contact.)

    Online marriage counseling meets you and your partner where you are and takes you to the next level of healing, love and intimacy. Its simply having a counseling session via the internet with a web cam to enable two people to come together in a safe place to effectively improve their relationship. I have experience working with couples experiencing struggles such as distance relationships due to military duty, work or separation. I commonly assist couples with long distance communication, infidelity or parenting struggles, just to name a few.It is an honor to be able to bring a couple together under a difficult dynamic and watch them grow with the struggle using their honesty, openness and perseverance through their faith and surrender in God.

    As a counselor at Agape Counseling, I work mostly with men on the many issues and challenges faced in today's culture such as: porn & sexual addiction, other addictions, past abuse, infidelity, fatherhood, sexual identity issues and with marital stressors, career pressures and home balance. I strive to meet others where they are without judgment and with the willingness to challenge and empower themselves to overcome the struggles of life. I particularly enjoy my work with men, because our culture has a tendency to look down on men, and we have our own unique set of challenges to overcome to be the spouses, sons and fathers that God intended us to be.

    If you have any questions about the work I do or counseling via Skype, please feel free to contact me.  (Please specify if you are seeking Skype counseling.)

  • Other Office Info

    Practice Info

  • Bio:
  • Patrick Cayouette, LMSW Undergrad degrees of Mental Health and Social Work at Franciscan University of Steubenville, OH. After completing my undergrad degrees, I had the opportunity to work in a mental health clinic serving the seriously and persistently mentally ill population.

    Since I received my Masters of Social Work degree at Roberts Wesleyan College in Rochester, NY, my clinical experience has expanded to many different populations such as at-risk youth, individuals, couples and families, especially those experiencing the challenge of having a child with potentially terminal and life-threatening illnesses.I am currently focusing on marital challenges through a Skype practice at

    When I am not on Skype, I work at a Christian counseling agency, Agape Counseling, in the Rochester, NY area.Here I work mostly with men and the many challenges faced in todays culture such as: porn & sexual addiction, other addictions, past abuse, infidelity, fatherhood and marital stressors and career and home balance.I also reach out to men who struggle with same-sex attractions.In a day when mens health is overlooked, I have a great admiration for the men I meet and their desire to heal and grow to become healthier and solid men of God for themselves and their families.

    If you have any questions about the work I do or counseling via Skype, please feel free to contact me.

    Also, check out my 2 websites:-

    Furthermore, I am on the national board of Catholic Social Workers National Association as the Director of Member Services.

    On a personal note, though I work with people throughout the country and world, I currently live with my amazing wife of 15 years, Amanda, and daughter, Gabrielle, in the Rochester, NY area. It is here that I take pride in having an active role in my parish as a member of the parish council as well as periodically working with the youth as a catechist.

  • Credentials, Training, Qualifications:
  • Masters of Social Work
  • What licenses do you currently hold?:
  • NY State License No: 080420
  • Are you in private practice?:
  • Yes
  • Are you available to provide supervision services?:
  • No
  • Do you participate in any insurance plans?:
  • No
  • Telephone/Video counseling:
  • Yes
  • Please list all languages that you speak:
  • English Only
  • I treat the following:
  • Individuals, Married Couples, Families, Addictions, Depressive Disorders, Anxiety Disorders, Child Bearing Loss, Sexual Identity Disorder, Psychotic Disorders
  • Other Specialties:
  • Men's issues and challenges (work, marriage, fatherhood and stress)
    Sexual Addiction - Certification In Sexual Addiction Therapy Candidate (Porn, infidelity, other behaviors)
    Infidelity within marriage
    Pre-Marital Counseling
  • I use the following methods:
  • Prayer, Behavior Techniques, Cognitive Techniques, Career/Vocational Counseling, Brief Solution Focused Therapy
  • Please describe other treatment methods
  • Sexual Addiction Therapy
    Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
    Schema Therapy
    Theology of the Body philosophy - used as a foundation of all of my counseling.
  • Catholic Commitment Of Therapist


    Artificial Contraception:

    "For just reasons spouses may wish to space the birth of their children."… "Periodic continence that is the methods of birth regulation based on self-observation and the use of infertile periods is in conformity with the objective criteria of morality."… " 'every action which whether in anticipation of the conjugal act or in its accomplishment or in the development of its natural consequences proposes whether as an end or as a means to render procreation impossible is intrinsically evil'." (Catechism 2368 2370) Please indicate if you agree or disagree.

  • Do you agree or disagree?
  • Agree
  • Living Together/Cohabitation:

    In a so-called free union a man and a woman refuse to give juridical and public form to a liaison involving sexual intimacy. The expression "free union" is fallacious: what can "union" mean when the partners make no commitment to one another each exhibiting a lack of trust in the other in himself or in the future? The expression covers a number of different situations: concubinage rejection of marriage as such or inability to make long-term commitments. All these situations offend against the dignity of marriage; they destroy the very idea of the family; they weaken the sense of fidelity. They are contrary to the moral law. The sexual act must take place exclusively within marriage. Outside of marriage it always constitutes a grave sin and excludes one from sacramental communion. Some today claim a "right to trial marriage" where there is an intention of getting married later. However firm the purpose of those who engage in premature sexual relations may be "the fact is that such liaisons can scarcely ensure mutual sincerity and fidelity in a relationship between a man and a woman nor especially can they protect it from inconstancy of desires or whim." Carnal union is morally legitimate only when a definitive community of life between a man and a woman has been established. Human love does not tolerate "trial marriages." It demands a total and definitive gift of persons to one another." (Catechism 2390 2391)

  • Do you agree or disagree?
  • Agree
  • Infertility:

    "Techniques that entail the dissociation of husband and wife by the intrusion of a person other than the couple (donation of sperm or ovum surrogate uterus) are gravely immoral. … Techniques involving only the married couple (homologous artificial insemination and fertilization) are perhaps less reprehensible yet remain morally unacceptable. They dissociate the sexual act from the procreative act. The act which brings the child into existence is no longer an act by which two persons give themselves to one another but one that 'entrust the life and identity of the embryo into the power of doctors and biologists and establishes the domination of technology over the origin and destiny of the human person. Such a relationship of domination is in itself contrary to the dignity and equality that must be common to parents and children'. … Only respect for the link between the meanings of the conjugal act and respect for the unity of the human being make possible procreation in conformity with the dignity of the person." (Catechism 2376 2377)

  • Do you agree or disagree?
  • Agree
  • Abortion:

    "From its conception the child has the right to life. Direct abortion that is abortion willed as an end or as a means is a "criminal" practice gravely contrary to the moral law. … Because it should be treated as a person from conception the embryo must be defended in its integrity cared for and healed like every other human being. (Catechism 2322 2324)

  • Do you agree or disagree?:
  • Agree
  • Comments
  • Life is a non-negotiable and I stand by this completely.
  • Divorce and Marriage:

    The church recognizes a validly contracted sacramental marriage as indissoluble. In therapeutic practice we are to presume the validity of a sacramental marriage "unless after examination of the situation by the competent ecclesiastical tribunal [the marriage is declared null i.e. that the marriage never existed in which case ] the contracting parties are free to [re]marry provided the natural obligations of a previous union are discharged." (Catechism 1629) "The separation of spouses while maintaining the marriage bond can be legitimate in certain cases provided for by canon law." (Catechism 1649) "The remarriage of persons divorced from a living lawful spouse contravenes the plan and law of God as taught by Christ. They are not separated from the Church but they cannot receive Eucharistic communion." (Catechism 1665)

  • Do you agree or disagree? :
  • Agree
  • Euthanasia:

    "Intentional euthanasia whatever its forms or motives is murder. It is gravely contrary to the dignity of the human person and to the respect due to the living God his Creator." (Catechism 2324)

  • Do you agree or disagree? :
  • Agree
  • Homosexuality:

    "Basing itself on Sacred Scripture which presents homosexual acts as acts of grave depravity tradition has always declared that 'homosexual acts are intrinsically disordered.' They are contrary to the natural law. They close the sexual act to the gift of life. They do not proceed from a genuine affective and sexual complementarily. Under no circumstances can they be approved. The number of men and women who have deep-seated homosexual tendencies is not negligible. They do not choose their homosexual condition; for most of them it is a trial. They must be accepted with respect compassion and sensitivity. Every sign of unjust discrimination in their regard should be avoided. Homosexual persons are called to chastity. By the virtues of self-mastery that teach them inner freedom at times by the support of disinterested friendship by prayer and sacramental grace they can and should gradually and resolutely approach Christian perfection." (Catechism 2357 2358 2359)

  • Do you agree or disagree?:
  • Agree
  • Comments
  • All clients will "be accepted with respect, compassion, and sensitivity."
  • New Age Practice and Spirituality:

    New Age involves a fundamental belief in the perfectibility of the human person by means of a wide variety of techniques and therapies (as opposed to the Christian view of cooperation with divine grace). (

    It is difficult to separate the individual elements of New Age religiosity – innocent though they may appear – from the overarching framework which permeates the whole thought-world on the New Age movement. The gnostic nature of this movement calls us to judge it in its entirety. From the point of view of Christian faith it is not possible to isolate some elements of New Age religiosity as acceptable to Christians while rejecting others.

    The New Age concept of God is rather diffuse whereas the Christian concept is a very clear one. The New Age god is an impersonal energy really a particular extension or component of the cosmos; god in this sense is the life force or soul of the world. … Even when “God” is something outside myself it is there to be manipulated.

    This is very different from the Christian understanding of God as the maker of heaven and earth and the source of all personal life… God is not identified with the Life-principle understood as the “Spirit” or “basic energy” of the cosmos but is that love which is absolutely different from the world and yet creatively present in everything and leading human beings to salvation. (Excerpted from “Jesus Christ the Bearer of the Water of Life: A Christian reflection on the “New Age”. (Pontifical Council for Interreligious Dialogue)).

    Common New Age practices include the use of enneagrams labyrinths reiki healing yoga transcendental meditation healing by crystals psychic healing reflexolgoy tarot cards palm reading recourse to mediums and psychics fortune telling and contacting the dead. There are many other practices and techniques that go by various names that are variations of these basic practices and are similarly at odds with Christian faith and are therefore to be rejected.

  • Do you agree or disagree?:
  • Agree
  • How often do you attend Mass?
  • Every Sunday and Holy Days
  • Are You A Practicing Catholic?
  • Yes

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